“But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”   ~Mark 10:6-9

Sexual relations were created to be between a man and his wife. It is the physical consummation of the verbal vows we speak, the total, absolute giving of yourself to another. God created sexual relations as the ultimate “mystery” of marriage between and man and a woman.

In fact, back in the day, a newly married soldier in Israel did not have to go to war for a whole year so that he could bring happiness to his bride. Proverbs encourages the enjoyment of sexual relations within marriage as well as enforcing the theme of Godly fidelity!

​“Drink water from your own cistern, and running water from your own well. Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be only your own, and not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth.”   ~Proverbs 5:15-18

Within the confines of marriage, regular sexual relations are expected and encouraged by the word of God. Sexual activity isn’t just for procreation but for enjoyment as well.

​“The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs.”   ~1 Corinthians 7:3 NLT

Having a healthy sex-life within the confines of marriage is the will of God and is an indisputable Biblical fact. God tells us that the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does—likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. As one flesh, the husband and wife share this right and privilege. This mutual intimacy is never portrayed as something held in reserve or shared with conditions, but rather to always be patient and giving to each other.

​"Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”   ~1 Corinthians 7:5 NIV

The above-stated reason for maintaining marital relations is clearly to reduce the temptation of adultery. If we are always satisfied by our spouse, there is far less opportunity for Satan to elude us with the thoughts of another. It is these thoughts, better known as adultery of the heart, that will ultimately lead to infidelity.

​“A lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.”   ~Proverbs 5:19 ESV

​“Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”   ~1 Corinthians 7:2-5

​The above verses are referring to always making yourself sexually available to your spouse. I know what many of you are thinking, my body, my decision. But God is clearly telling us that Satan will not be able to get in-between us and mess up our marriage if we do everything in our power to, not only, love and respect one another but cleave to one another, not depriving our spouse of sex for any reason except for spiritual reasons. If we go against this command, we are opening the door for Satan to enter with the temptation of infidelity.

The simple truth is that it takes minimal effort on a husband’s or a wife’s part to get in the mood!  A few kisses and some caressing is all that’s necessary to get the game going when you are in love with your spouse! Even on those occasions when I’m dead tired from a stressful day’s events, the benefit of surrendering to my husband by asking God to give me patience and energy is always richly rewarded! Spontaneity almost always leads to fireworks in the bedroom. Frequent sex is not only the best preventative for infidelity, it’s the food of the marital love-bond; it’s what makes that love grow. Why do you think it’s called . . . making love!

​Three r​easons why sex k​eeps you healthy:

• ​It reduces stress (the primary cause of autoimmune deficiency)
• It increases calmness (the side effect of brain chemicals released)
• It is a natural aerobic workout (improving cardio/vascular health)

​“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”   ~Hebrews 13:4

In this verse, the apostle Paul is saying that the marriage bed should be considered honorable and the marital union be undefiled, unspoiled, and kept pure. God is crystal clear on the importance of fidelity. Being faithful to our spouse is the cornerstone to keeping our love strong. Infidelity is so unacceptable in God’s eyes that He warns us to repent from such immorality.

​The heart damage of infidelity . . .

​“…Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts.Therefore take heed to your spirit that you do not deal treacherously.”   ~Malachi 2:14-16

It is essential to understand that biblical marriage is a lifelong covenant. The sexual union is to be restricted within the bounds of that covenant relationship. To engage in sex outside of marriage is sin, and causes deep emotional wounds in the heart of the spouse. We need to hold the vows we made on our wedding day as the protective shield to keep our spouse’s heart safe and our marital union strong!

​“Yet you say, for what reason? Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant.”   ~Malachi 2:14

​God refers to this union between husband and wife as a covenant. He has put a tremendous value on marriage the way He intended it—one woman and one man—a lifelong relationship of love and fidelity, companionship and holy vows.

In this day and age, sex is less of an extension of love, and more an issue of physical gratification. We must relearn how to practice biblical love and Godly marriage, return to restricting sex to the marital bed and do everything in our power to guard against sexual infidelity!

​“How fair and how pleasant you are, O love, with your delights! This stature of yours is like a palm tree, and your breasts like its clusters. I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of its branches. Let now your breasts be like clusters of the vine, the fragrance of your breath like apples, and the roof of your mouth like the best wine. The wine goes down smoothly for my beloved, moving gently the lips of sleepers. I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me. Come, my beloved, let us go forth to the field; let us lodge in the villages. Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine has budded, whether the grape blossoms are open, and the pomegranates are in bloom. There I will give you my love."   ~Song of Solomon 7:6-12

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